Yeah the butler exhaust is very quiet on idle just a light rumble. Everyday cruising its a little droney but not so much that'd you'd get pissed off by it (unless you do a lot of freeway driving, then its quite loud). On wot it sounds awesome, even better with the windows down at low speed when you put the hammer down.
Can't comment on the right pads for ya, ive got Ferodo DS2500's and they are not by any means "low-dust" heheee
Congrats and enjoy your rexxy.